4 important things to keep in mind when learning how to cultivate happiness from within
1. Learn to let go of guilt, don't be so hard on yourself.
We’ve all been there, when we are trying to go to sleep and we are invaded by thoughts of situations that we experienced during the day. What happens when these thoughts are negative? You might think -I could have done this better, I shouldn't have done this, what would have happened if I had done things differently?-, etc. One of the factors by which we can fall into a picture of anxiety is by carrying self-imposed thoughts of guilt, for being too demanding with ourselves.
This often happens, because as we grow older, our parents, institutions and society ask us to meet high social standards, according to our gender, social status, economic status, etc. And by the time we are adults, we are still carrying these expectations. But we must understand that these expectations are not ours, but have been imposed on us. If you also have a hard time dealing with this feeling of guilt, start by thinking about all those things that you have achieved for yourself and for your own satisfaction. If you prioritise these thoughts it will be easier to find harmony from within, and you will notice how you will attract harmony around you.
When you are about to sleep and these intrusive thoughts start to show up, think of the things that make you happy and the things that you achieved in your day.
2. Gratitude and positive Self-Talk
You may have noticed that in recent years, starting your day by writing down the things that you are grateful for has become a bit of a trend. But what does this really mean? I didn't understand it at first until I started doing it myself. For example, I was finding it really hard to thank life or the universe if I was having a difficult day, or if I had heard something upsetting in the news. But when I gave it a bit more thought, I understood that this habit of gratitude is a way to stand up in the face of adversity. Even if you are having a bad day. When you spend a minute or two, thinking of the things that bring you joy, love, laughter, compassion, helps us dispel sadness and face the day with positive thoughts. Another form of self-care is to have positive affirmations. It is important to cultivate the habit of speaking to yourself with love and respect. Remember, that internal validation is the one that matters the most and the one that will empower you to be confident and believe in what you are capable of.
3.Reconnect with your inner child.
In an adult-centric world it is easy to disconnect from our inner child. That creative, curious, free part and without fear of the unknown. As adults, we often live focused on work and responsibilities at home, we stop being curious. Reconnecting with your inner child is letting yourself experience emotion even for the small and beautiful details of life. Every day is filled with moments of wonder, discovery and joy. We just have to be in tune with them. So let yourself enjoy the present and the small and beautiful details that life gives us. Breathe and watch the sunset, go for a short walk in the park and pay attention to the beautiful intricacies of nature. Being present and making that small window of time to appreciate the beautiful moments of the day is one of the most simple yet powerful things you can do to live a happier, more fulfilled life.
4.Forgive
Last but not least is forgiveness. And I am not referring to forgiving the people around you but rather in finding forgiveness in yourself. Is there anything from your past that is stopping you from finding true happiness? The first step to address this is acknowledgement. The second step is to reflect and learn from that mistake, remember that it is through making mistakes that we can grow and become better. And the third step is resolving it, making sure you give yourself every opportunity to resolve anything that is causing you sadness or pain.
